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Trying to be the life of the party but still don't have enough
confidence to do it? Your low self esteem is playing tricks on
you? Let's review these tips for a big confidence boost.
1.
Get some self esteem. Look closely at the life of the party. Do
they always wear expensive and elegant attire, are they 6 ft
tall glamorous, are they insanely thin and gorgeous? Most
probably not. Even if they are, these are NOT the reasons for
being very popular. Write a list of only good things about
yourself. Write a list of things that need improvement, for
example : grades, quality of your health, confidence. Work out a
plan to eat healthier/ study harder/be more confident. Fake it
till you make it. Also believe that every single negative thing
can be turned into a positive. If you aren't thin, say you have
womanly curves. If you aren't tall believe that you are a petite
cutie pie. If you are tall and under confident, feel that you are
a sexy glamazon. Small lips, big lips... It doesn't matter and
both are beautiful.
2.
Practice walking and sitting with your back straight; having a
good posture can make wonders on your self esteem.
3.
Make proper eye contact with people you talk with as much as
possible. It takes practice, especially if you have low self
esteem. Start with 5 seconds, and work your way up. To break up
the eye contact look at another feature on their face (never
below the chin, and never over their shoulder), then come back
to their eyes.
4.
Dress like a winner, your clothes and appearance can make a big
difference between being perceived as a great person or a lame
person. Get a personal shopper (they are free) at a major
department store to help you out whether it is one item or an
entire wardrobe. You would be amazed at what they would perceive
to look good on you versus what you would wear.
5.
Learn new social skills like: learning how to have a good
conversation or how to be a great listener. Start by learning
how to listen. The most popular people are the ones perceived as
good listeners first!
6.
Learn skills that entertain people like card tricks, magic or
palmistry; some of these skills are easy to learn and can give
you a great self esteem boost.
7.
The best skill to learn is a sense of (healthy) humor, the
ability to laugh at oneself (within reason). Popular people are
the ones with the best sense of humor.
8.
Surround yourself with great people with good self esteem, who
support you and help you with your self esteem issues.
9.
Read books and learn about how to improve your self esteem.
10.
Identify the top two things that you tend to identify as pulling
down your self esteem, and work on improving them in order to
mitigate the source of your lack of self esteem. For example, if
your biggest self esteem issue stems from your being overweight,
then work on that issue first. Keep crossing out your top two
self esteem busters as you work on them, till your list is all
clear!
11.
Work your newfound charm and self esteem on one person, then
another, then another, then a couple at a time, and in no time
on a crowd! You have been just crowned 'Popular'!
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