7 Steps To Increase Your Self Esteem And Self Confidence

High self esteem or self confidence, is not something some lucky people are born with, a lot of it lies in our upbringing, and how your self image have been build up through life. If you want happiness, success and fulfillment you need high self esteem. If you appreciate yourself, and look at yourself as worthy of whatever you find important, you will automatically have high self esteem, and a strong self image, which is your conception of your beliefs about yourself.

In fact how you see yourself will always influence your thoughts, your actions, your feelings and your behavior. And all that put together with your abilities and from that comes the results you produce in your life.

So if you have low self esteem, you will have an inner image of yourself as some sort of a failure or defeat, and you will see yourself as not very worthy, and probably feel like you are a victim of circumstance and bad luck.

And if you have high self esteem, your inner image will project optimism in everything you do, it will be like seeing yourself as a worthy person, and have a great self confidence. You will feel like you have a purpose, and be positive in most, if not all of your actions.

People with high self esteem, are not beating themselves up when they fail at something, they go right back to being optimistic, and see what some might see as failure, as a success, much like Thomas Edison described it when inventing the electric light bulb. "I don't see myself failing 3000 times with this, I am certain that it will work, and I am 3000 tries closer to success" Not quite accurately what he said, but I think you get the point here.

From this we can also see that high self esteem people have a sense of direction, and a feel for what they do as important. When things don't work out right for them, they usually stand back, and look objectively at their results, and find what they can correct in order to produce another result, as opposed to low self esteemed persons, who often do the exact same thing to get the exact same results, and they don't have a clue why.

So, what is the secret to high self-esteem? Basically, it is accepting the self, and then peeling off the layers of conditioning and lies that have caused self esteem and self confidence to decrease and be buried.

7 steps To Increase Your Self Esteem And Self Confidence

1. Accept where you are in life, and don't keep beating up yourself when you fail at something.

2. Get at peace with your past, your weaknesses and your strengths.

3. Don't take yourself so seriously, we all make mistakes, and it's not the end of the world every time.

4. Work on loving yourself for what you are, we are all unique persons, and we all have a worth in life. And try to understand that you are here for a purpose.

5. Remember and cherish your successes, no matter how small they are, it will help your mind learn that success is a part of you. Praise yourself when you achieve something, it is your achievement, and praising yourself for your success is quite the opposite of beating yourself up for failing.

6. Visualize yourself with success and high self esteem, see the person you would bee if you were a success from the outside, study him/her, how they walk, breath, talk and so forth. And then try to be one with that person in your mind, it will be hard to do at first, but if you make this a daily assignment for yourself, it will get easier, and it will work wonders for your self esteem and self confidence.

7. Finally, set goals for yourself, plan your successes, and reward yourself, at least emotionally by praising yourself whenever you achieve some sort of a goal, make it small achievable goals to begin with, it is a great confidence booster to achieve a goal, no matter how small it may seem to others, this is your life, go out and get it.

Do these 7 steps regularly, take action, and you will be well on your way to more self esteem and self confidence, put your all in it, and take back the life you deserve.