How To Increase Self Confidence
Are you looking into ways to help you to gain more confidence?
Have you a lack of self-belief? Do you think that you are a weak
person? Would you like to be more care-free person? If you have
answered yes to any of these questions, this article may well be
worth a read. I am going to write about how people can go about
increasing their self-confidence. This advice is what I have
used to help myself turn from an often depressive person to a
now happy and relaxed young man.
My name is Steve Hill and I have to admit that for the first
twenty-two years of my life, I did not exactly live life to the
full or in the correct manner. I was basically like a scared
rabbit, I worried about almost all aspects of life and was a
very negative person. I needed to change this approach as I was
not exactly a happy chap. Ten years ago I went about making this
change by reading literature about self-confidence and by trying
to learn how other people coped with their problems compared to
me.
One of my many weaknesses was that I was very paranoid about
what other people thought of me. I was desperate for people to
like me and would easily get upset if people criticized me or
made fun of me etc. In a way, I tried to hard to earn this type
of respect and would do things and attend functions which I did
not really want to, just to please other people of course.
I have now realized and accepted that it is important for me to
be truthful to myself. I should be doing what I want to do and
if people do not like me for whatever reason, then that is fine,
I have enough people who do.
I have also decided to stop worrying about things like the
future, money, relationships and work. Stressing about these and
other things does not make life an easier, in fact it makes it a
lot harder. There is no time in life for this type of fear, I
should be spending this time trying to improve and enjoying my
life. If something goes wrong which of course it will from time
to time, I will deal with it when it happens, in a very positive
and dynamic way.
As an example of my new found inner confidence was something
that happened during a recent evening out I had with some
friends of mine. We were all drinking quite a lot of beer and it
was clear that most of my friends were intent on becoming very
drunk. I like a drink but not half as much as what other people
seem to. At around nine o'clock I had basically had enough of
drinking alcohol and started to drink diet coke. My friends gave
me some funny looks and made some comments, they were suggesting
that I was not a true male. I did not care what they thought of
me and told them so. If I want to drink diet coke then I will.
I am happy with my latest approach to life and am determined not
to go back to the way I used to think and live. I do stress at
times but quickly attempt to snap out of it by thinking in a
more positive way.
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