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Our self esteem is instilled in us during our youth. Being
constantly criticized by parents and family members tends to
slowly strip us of our feelings of self worth. Our low self
esteem strips us of our self confidence to make even the
smallest of decisions. We think little of ourselves, and feel we
do not deserve to be happy.
Improving your self esteem
increases your confidence and is a
first step towards finding happiness and a better life. You gain
this confidence by believing that you are unique, you are
special, and that you deserve to have your dreams come true!
1.
Take little steps and make small choices to gain confidence in
your ability to make a decision. As you become secure in your
ability to make good choices, you will gain confidence in
yourself, and be more secure about your abilities in general.
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For example, if purchasing jeans makes you nervous because of
having to decide on brands, colors, and styles, then just take
the plunge. This is a minor decision that can always be
rectified by exchanging the jeans if you really feel you made a
wrong decision. However, try to stick to your original choice.
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Buy a shirt next, to go with the jeans. Take your time trying on
different styles and colors. When you feel a bit of excitement
inside of you, you will know you are making a good decision, so
buy it. It is that inner feeling that will help you build up
your feeling of self worth. You will begin to think, 'if I can
do this well, I can do other things.' Your confidence grows, and
so does your self esteem. Confidence and self worth go hand in
hand.
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Wear your jeans and shirt the next time you go to meet friends.
Show off your outfit. You will know by the compliments you get
that you did indeed make a good decision. Smile and be proud of
yourself because you took the first step of many in gaining
confidence in yourself via your ability to make decisions. The
newfound confidence comes from your willingness to assert
yourself and make a simple decision.
2.
Reward yourself when you succeed. You deserve to have your
dreams, and to make them come true. Believe in yourself
completely, and others will also believe and trust you.
3.
Improve your self confidence
4.
Face your fears and forget all your failures. Get up and try
again. It is not important that you failed, but that you tried
to succeed.
5.
Don't always try to please others. It is considerate to care
about others' feelings but your needs are important also. Do not
try to be like someone else either. You will be at your best
when you are being yourself because of your uniqueness. Strive
to be your best, but do not criticise yourself if you fall short
of your expectations.
6.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons or persons who have a negative
attitude which may rub off on you. Do not compare yourself to
others. Just be the best that you can be.
7.
Do something to impress yourself. Volunteer at a homeless
shelter or vet's office. Be a Big Brother or Sister. Help
someone else. Nothing makes you feel better about yourself than
seeing how your help made someone else's load a little lighter.
Take a class, study hard, and pass - learn something useful or
interesting. It could be photography, oil painting, a literature
appreciation class, or beginning guitar. Being accomplished
raises self-esteem.
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